Wednesday, March 13, 2013

Anniversary & Advice

Dear Mom,

I could have used the piece of advice that Suzanne shared with me the other night when I was getting ready for the Camp Wyman Gala.

As always, I let doubts and insecurities slip in while getting ready, when I know darn well it makes no difference AT ALL, really. So Suzanne said, “Here’s a piece of advice Mom told me when I was a teenager fussing around preparing for a date. ‘Suzanne, get ready the best you can, then forget about it, and focus on everyone else.’”

Such words of wisdom. How many times could those words have saved me from useless worry and anxiety?

I can apply this advice in many areas, not just getting ready for an event. Whenever I’m muddled in my own self-delusions of pity or pain, I have a choice to redirect that and focus on someone else. I will remind myself of this when I slip into that black hole, to remember: I have a choice. What do I want to pay attention to?

Today, I’m paying attention to you. On the anniversary of your death 43 years ago, and the anniversary of this blog, 3 years ago.

Mothers never leave us.


  1. Hi Lynn, you always have the sweetest posts. They almost always bring a lump to my throat or a tear to my eyes. My mother fell and broke her hip in early December. She was in rehab but they said she's reached her potential so now she's in a nursing home. Her memory is deteriorating. I can help but wonder each time I go visit, when will she forget me? Our lives seem to be on speed dial now. Everything is going roller-coaster fast. Not fun.

    Thanks for the card you sent. I hope you're loving college life. I went back to college at 29--late bloomer! :)

  2. Lynn, this is the MOST perfect piece of advice!!!!

  3. Lynn--That last line said it all. No matter how old we get, no matter how long they are gone, we still long to have them back...

  4. Loved this post, Lynn. Such excellent advice that all of us should heed.

    And thank you so much, ma'am, for the lovely ornament. You have a knack of doing things that make people feel good. What a generous spirit!

    Critter Alley

  5. Hi Lynn, this was so beautiful, and yes, what excellent advice. I'm going to tape that one line to my laptop: "...get ready the best you can, then forget about it, and focus on everyone else."
    Focus on Everyone Else! Wonderful!
    I hope your classes are going well for you. I haven't been very good at keeping in touch lately. And I wish I would've known your mom, because look at the fabulous daughter she had....YOU!

  6. Hi Lynn,
    What a lovely tribute to your mom. And such wise advice.
    Hope all is going well with school and in your life.

  7. Hi Lynn, boy, you do not know how priceless this was for me to read this morning. I have a job interview at 10:30 at a pre-school and I am a ball of nerves, even though I don't even know if I want the job. I will just focus on them and what they are doing and see if there is a way that I can help out.

    Happy 3 year anniversary!

    Thanks for the card and the ornament, but I haven't bought my copy. I will get on that right away. I'll use your ornament as a bookmark.


    Kathy M.

  8. Great advice... I think I could use a dose of that b/c I always second-guess myself!

  9. good job Thanks lot for this useful article, nice post

  10. Great advice, Lynn, and what a nice tribute to your mother. Sending hugs.

  11. Great post! Congrats on your 3 year mark. I'm sure your Mama is watching, proud.

  12. It’s exactly what I was looking for!nice job for posting this.

  13. A beautiful tribute, and such great advice!
    Looking back, that is something we can all benefit from, stop obsessing and worrying and focus on someone else.

    *huge hugs*

  14. What wonderful words of wisdom. I'm going to write this in my journal tonight. Sweet hugs my friend. (I'm going to mention you in my post tomorrow! Hope you can stop by!)


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